• Women
    • Woman are more complicated than men
    • Women love to give
    • How do woman think?
      • Womens brain are made up of a big ball of wire
        • Everything is connected to everything
        • It’s all driven by energy that we call emotion
        • It’s one of the reasons women tend to remember everything
          • An Event + Emotion = easier to remember in the future
        • Women get irritated if there is nothing to do or if they see their husbands doing nothing
      • How does a women figure out how she feels?
        • She needs to first talk about everything going on in her head and then she will eventually figure out how she feels
  • Men
    • Men were created to behave a certain way
    • Men are simple
    • Men are takers (what is in it for me)
    • How do men think?
      • Men are more interested in sex than their wives
      • Mens brains are made up of little boxes
        • The boxes do not touch
        • They have a favorite box, it has nothing in it
        • Men in general have a hard time remembering things
          • An Event + Emotion = doesn’t happen very often
            • We care less about things
      • Men only tell other men about their issues if they think they may help fix the issue
  • How is stress handled?
    • Men - They want to go to their nothing box
      • They want to unwind
      • They do not want to talk about it
        • Women, leave your husband alone!
    • Women - They have to talk about it
      • Women do not want men to fix the issue or any advice
        • Men, they just want you to shut up and listen!
  • How do they use words?
    • Men
      • Use very little words
      • They mean exactly what they say
    • Women
      • Use a lot of words
      • “Five more minutes” - This can mean any number of minutes
      • “nothing” - Look out, it’s something!
      • (SIGH) - She means you are an idiot
      • “Go ahead” - explain whatever stupid thing you did
  • How do they listen?
    • Men
      • Men are single taskers
      • They can focus intensely on one task and then move on to the next
      • When a man is doing something, he generally cannot hear anything
        • Women, make sure you have his full attention before giving him vital information
    • Women
      • Women are multi-taskers
      • Don’t do this: Men is busy at a task, you are multi-tasking and then attempt to tell him important information
      • Women are able to be in a completely other room and still try to have a conversation with their husbands
  • Sex
    • Men
      • Driven by testosterones
      • On average, men have a desire for sex every 3 days
      • This motivates the man to be nice to the girl
      • Men imprint based on their early sexual experiences
        • They try to recreate those experiences now in their marriages
        • This can hurt the sexual relationship with your wife if you are trying to recreated something that your wife is not interested in
    • Women
      • Woman are after the mans heart (time, companionship, love)
        • They key to the mans heart is sex
      • Women take notice what happens after a sexual experience
        • If there is no connection, no follow-up after sex, they equate sex as nothing, sex means nothing
    • Keys to incredible sex
      • What does a women need to have great sex?
        • Exclusivity
        • Privacy
        • Time
        • Foreplay
        • Romance
  • Misc
    • Women think if they give more to their Men, their men will be motivated to give her more. This does not work.
      • Women need to learn to take in relationships
      • How to change the dynamic of give and take?
        • Ask him more than once
        • Ask him the right way
          • Do not insult him
        • Train him with positive reinforcement
          • Appreciate the things he does
          • Men love to be appreciated
        • Barter with him
          • Honey, if you do this, I will give you that
    • Men, women love unexpected kindness
      • Try that once in a while
  • The Flag Page
    • Countries
      • CONTROL country
        • They are the go getters
        • They want to get something accomplished no matter who they need to run over
        • They crave variety and dislike repetitive tasks
        • Greatest NEED:The want to be appreciated for what they do
        • words they want to hear: grasp, control, get it done, appreciate, accomplish, achieve
      • FUN country
        • Greatest NEED:They want to be given approval for how they act
        • They want to be the center of attention
        • Not big on details
        • Scatter brains
        • They love to socialize
      • PERFECT country
        • They just want to get it right
        • They love details
        • They are always looking for flaws
          • Let me tell you what is wrong with you, so you can get better
        • They get mad when people call them control freaks, because they really are not
        • They are creative geniuses
        • Greatest NEED: They want you to be sensitive to their feelings
        • They get their feelings hurt very easily
        • They can carry baggage for years even for life
      • PEACE country
        • They just want to get along
        • They hate emotional waves
        • words: No hassle, easy way, relax, low maintenance, respect, smart
        • Greatest NEED:They want you to respect who they are
        • They are very easy to disrespect
        • If you push them too hard they will get mad and shut down
          • Don’t insult them
          • Don’t make them feel stupid
          • Don’t make them feel like a failure
        • Good Managers - If you combine CONTROL country with PEACE country, you get someone that gets stuff done and gets along with people
  • How to stay married?
    • Avoid bitterness and resentment
      • Unforgiveness is like taking poison hoping the other guy will die
    • Women appreciate simple acts of kindness
      • It doesn’t have to be big ones, small/big get the same score
      • If you only do xmas/Bday/Valentines/anniversary, you only did 4 things all year, you are a bum in her eyes. Doing many tiny acts of kindness throughout the year is a better way to go.
    • Every man wants his wife to believe in him
      • You need to be his #1 fan
      • If you always say his ideas are bad, men learn “I cannot share my dreams with my wife”
      • Most affairs are because of emotional reasons, the wife needs to let her husband know she is her #1 fan
    • Reset button
      • Forgive each other and kiss

David Rules

  1. Give David space to focus and work alone.
  2. Expect me to be predictable and boring — that’s what brings me success.
  3. Appreciate his efforts with genuine thanks.
  4. Let David do things on his own — he prefers handling tasks himself, even if he needs help.
  5. If you need help, ask for it clearly — and ask again if he doesn’t respond.
  6. Understand when he needs quiet to unwind.
  7. Make sure you have his full attention before talking.
  8. Trust him and show loyalty — it means the world.
  9. Support his ideas and love for improving things.
  10. Communicate without being offensive or disrespectful — respect matters.