- Women
- Woman are more complicated than men
- Women love to give
- How do woman think?
- Womens brain are made up of a big ball of wire
- Everything is connected to everything
- It’s all driven by energy that we call emotion
- It’s one of the reasons women tend to remember everything
- An Event + Emotion = easier to remember in the future
- Women get irritated if there is nothing to do or if they see their husbands doing nothing
- How does a women figure out how she feels?
- She needs to first talk about everything going on in her head and then she will eventually figure out how she feels
- Men
- Men were created to behave a certain way
- Men are simple
- Men are takers (what is in it for me)
- How do men think?
- Men are more interested in sex than their wives
- Mens brains are made up of little boxes
- The boxes do not touch
- They have a favorite box, it has nothing in it
- Men in general have a hard time remembering things
- An Event + Emotion = doesn’t happen very often
- We care less about things
- Men only tell other men about their issues if they think they may help fix the issue
- How is stress handled?
- Men - They want to go to their nothing box
- They want to unwind
- They do not want to talk about it
- Women, leave your husband alone!
- Women - They have to talk about it
- Women do not want men to fix the issue or any advice
- Men, they just want you to shut up and listen!
- How do they use words?
- Men
- Use very little words
- They mean exactly what they say
- Women
- Use a lot of words
- “Five more minutes” - This can mean any number of minutes
- “nothing” - Look out, it’s something!
- (SIGH) - She means you are an idiot
- “Go ahead” - explain whatever stupid thing you did
- How do they listen?
- Men
- Men are single taskers
- They can focus intensely on one task and then move on to the next
- When a man is doing something, he generally cannot hear anything
- Women, make sure you have his full attention before giving him vital information
- Women
- Women are multi-taskers
- Don’t do this: Men is busy at a task, you are multi-tasking and then attempt to tell him important information
- Women are able to be in a completely other room and still try to have a conversation with their husbands
- Sex
- Men
- Driven by testosterones
- On average, men have a desire for sex every 3 days
- This motivates the man to be nice to the girl
- Men imprint based on their early sexual experiences
- They try to recreate those experiences now in their marriages
- This can hurt the sexual relationship with your wife if you are trying to recreated something that your wife is not interested in
- Women
- Woman are after the mans heart (time, companionship, love)
- They key to the mans heart is sex
- Women take notice what happens after a sexual experience
- If there is no connection, no follow-up after sex, they equate sex as nothing, sex means nothing
- Keys to incredible sex
- What does a women need to have great sex?
- Exclusivity
- Privacy
- Time
- Foreplay
- Romance
- Misc
- Women think if they give more to their Men, their men will be motivated to give her more. This does not work.
- Women need to learn to take in relationships
- How to change the dynamic of give and take?
- Ask him more than once
- Ask him the right way
- Train him with positive reinforcement
- Appreciate the things he does
- Men love to be appreciated
- Barter with him
- Honey, if you do this, I will give you that
- Men, women love unexpected kindness
- The Flag Page
- Countries
- CONTROL country
- They are the go getters
- They want to get something accomplished no matter who they need to run over
- They crave variety and dislike repetitive tasks
- Greatest NEED:The want to be appreciated for what they do
- words they want to hear: grasp, control, get it done, appreciate, accomplish, achieve
- FUN country
- Greatest NEED:They want to be given approval for how they act
- They want to be the center of attention
- Not big on details
- Scatter brains
- They love to socialize
- PERFECT country
- They just want to get it right
- They love details
- They are always looking for flaws
- Let me tell you what is wrong with you, so you can get better
- They get mad when people call them control freaks, because they really are not
- They are creative geniuses
- Greatest NEED: They want you to be sensitive to their feelings
- They get their feelings hurt very easily
- They can carry baggage for years even for life
- PEACE country
- They just want to get along
- They hate emotional waves
- words: No hassle, easy way, relax, low maintenance, respect, smart
- Greatest NEED:They want you to respect who they are
- They are very easy to disrespect
- If you push them too hard they will get mad and shut down
- Don’t insult them
- Don’t make them feel stupid
- Don’t make them feel like a failure
- Good Managers - If you combine CONTROL country with PEACE country, you get someone that gets stuff done and gets along with people
- How to stay married?
- Avoid bitterness and resentment
- Unforgiveness is like taking poison hoping the other guy will die
- Women appreciate simple acts of kindness
- It doesn’t have to be big ones, small/big get the same score
- If you only do xmas/Bday/Valentines/anniversary, you only did 4 things all year, you are a bum in her eyes. Doing many tiny acts of kindness throughout the year is a better way to go.
- Every man wants his wife to believe in him
- You need to be his #1 fan
- If you always say his ideas are bad, men learn “I cannot share my dreams with my wife”
- Most affairs are because of emotional reasons, the wife needs to let her husband know she is her #1 fan
- Reset button
- Forgive each other and kiss
David Rules §
- Give David space to focus and work alone.
- Expect me to be predictable and boring — that’s what brings me success.
- Appreciate his efforts with genuine thanks.
- Let David do things on his own — he prefers handling tasks himself, even if he needs help.
- If you need help, ask for it clearly — and ask again if he doesn’t respond.
- Understand when he needs quiet to unwind.
- Make sure you have his full attention before talking.
- Trust him and show loyalty — it means the world.
- Support his ideas and love for improving things.
- Communicate without being offensive or disrespectful — respect matters.